Aike Ho (Partner, ACME Capital) and Camilla Hermann (entrepreneur) discuss "relationship yoga" - viewing intimate relationships as paths to growth through how we trigger each other. They explore how relationship patterns reveal unresolved aspects of ourselves and why finding a partner who's willing to evolve together matters more than matching a checklist of ideal traits.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

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LINKS

• Enneagram personalities https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/
  


• Dr. Becky "Good Inside" https://www.amazon.com/Good-Inside-Guide-Becoming-Parent/dp/0063159481
  


• Hoffman Process https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/
  


• Evolution of The Internal Family Systems Model By Dr. Richard Schwartz, Ph. D.: https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/evolution-internal-family-systems-model-dr-richard-schwartz-ph-d
  


• Concept of Basic Trust from Book 'Facets of Unity' by AH Almaas: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/2533/facets-of-unity-by-a-h-almaas/
  

TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00 ) Intro and Preview

(01:33 ) What is Relationship Yoga?

(02:22 ) Relationship as a Canvas for Wholeness

(04:54 ) Triggers and the Opportunity for Healing

(08:40 ) Observing and Processing Triggers

(09:38 ) The Role of Past Experiences

(10:51 ) Holding Space & Interlocking Patterns

(11:32 ) Using the Enneagram

(12:56 ) Example of Reactivity and Softness

(14:00 ) Reparenting & the Little Ones

(15:39 ) Interlocking Triggers & Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(16:39 ) Working with Internal Parts

(20:07 ) Free Will & Running Patterns

(21:00 ) Growth, Ego Death & Commitment in Relationships

(23:11 ) Seeing With Fresh Eyes

(23:16 ) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:59 ) The Art of Loving & Unconditional Acceptance

(28:30 ) Reflections on Being Single

(34:50 ) Challenges & Bouncing Back

(39:44 ) Patterns Want to be Liberated

(42:34 ) Causes of Struggle in Relationships

(55:57 ) Tension of Triggers and Attraction

(1:00:04 ) Advice For Making It Fantastic

(1:02:04 ) Connection: Spark, Attraction, Intimacy

(1:05:23 ) Wrap